As year ends.......

December 31, 2011

It is an opportune time for us to pause a while for reflection: Are we blessed? Are we grateful of so many gifts that God has given us? The gift of life, the health, and of so many things we have? So we should be thankful if not, be contented, of what we have but if we concentrate on what we don’t have, we realize that we will never ever have enough.

Life is an undying cycle, it’s a battle of survival, if we quit then we’re a loser; if we fall, we should stand up. If we keep on complaining and whining about the miseries of our life nothing will happen. Life is too short, so don’t deal so much with its negativity. Just be happy and be contented with whatever life brings us. It’s not bad to dream to live a better life, but to focus on dreaming to live the life we love often leads us to frustration. But learning to love the life we live brings peace and genuine happiness.

It's a time to straightened things, if there are things we regret like words we wish had gone unsaid or beginnings that had bitter endings, the opportunities and chances we threw away, roads that we’re traversing should have never taken, signs we overlooked and didn’t see, and still hearts were aching because we hurt needlessly. Don't miss the chances, may be there are relationships and wounds we could still mend and could be reestablished, though the past can’t be changed but it could be improved if poorly done with hope not to experience  it again. What we really do is be thankful for every changes we have, for every break in our hearts and for every scars, gladly pages in our lives were turned even if bridges were burned….. because of these, we learned!

Your First Day in the World

On your natal day, you bring joy to your parents especially to your mother who carried you for (9) nine months since conception up to the time you are born. She gave you all the possible & needed care, good and necessary extra care with diligence to nurture your so fragile life from the moment of fertilization. Now that you are what you are, did it occur to you that your mother has sacrificed so much that she would not mind giving her life if it would mean you're free from danger, giving you the assurance of complete protection and survival? You are the gem of your parent's eyes as God is happy to see with His creation. Some of the myriad of reasons why God loves you: God is love, for He created you by His love through your parents. God is wonderful because He molded you perfectly and beautifully as you are made in His image and likeness. God is kind and merciful, for He sent His son Jesus to die for you and save us from the bondage of sin. God is just as He assures you a share in heaven by believing Him through His son Jesus Christ. God is joy because He let His precious son Jesus to be born like you in this world. Therefore on this day as you celebrate your birthday, be HAPPY!

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LIMITED TIME

In my understanding of time constraints is simply putting a time frame or dead line in the accomplishment of one’s task. It’s a time allotted or designated where one is expected to execute or finish a work. So if you fail by default or by not doing your job by not meeting the deadline you suffered the consequence of time constraints because you allow your time to lapse and prescribed and therefore the result is decided against or prejudicial to your interest.

I have realized that my tasks, duties and responsibilities as the head of a family more so as a father to my children have great influence and have huge impact to their values and attitudes, aspirations and moral upbringing. I can now be judged whether I passed or failed through their actuation and status in the society and how they relate to the people around them. My point here is had I been learned of this gargantuan responsibilities before while my children were yet young and still in the development process, I believe there are still lot of improvements and enhancements to what I personally perceived before as an Ideal one, making use and without waste of the limited time with the children. Too much time for our work unknowingly enslave us that even the quality of family affairs are deprecated giving much concern for my job in the name of productivity and performance as a worker. In other words, we give much time for our jobs and lesser time for our kids, even during days-off intended for family day are oftentimes sacrificed for rest day premium work of the company.

Time is of the essence, it is gold so precious that no times are the same. Once wasted will never come back unlike lost riches will still be recovered. We are given time constraints each for every child we have for their proper molding, preparation to become a better person. Once we lost a single moment to them will have a rifling effect in terms of family cohesion. In some instances it will cause a drift of preferences away from the families and temporarily give them the taste of security and comforts within and among their peers. This time we shall give primordial consideration on family togetherness, and reasons to talk. Modern families are mobile, and children begin getting involved in extracurricular activities at young ages. It is important to establish a weekly or monthly meeting that nothing will conflict with as observed it is difficult to have a family to come together, it is advisable to plot already a schedule for family day. When you schedule a formal time to gather and talk as a family, your children will also be given an opportunity to learn many lessons and be informed of the parent’s plans for their children’s carrier and future. The constant information of their children may serve as reminder to their well being as part of the family. Conflicts can be handled during this meeting, involved parties are given time to express their viewpoints and acknowledged, but eventually parents will make decision even if children can disagree with, still they can feel validated knowing their voices are ventilated and heard if not considered. As open communication enhanced, issues of vital importance can now be discussed without inhibition even those deemed taboo by conservative or old-fashioned people in the presence of the young members of the families, like choosing their future partners, livelihood that can affect their day to day subsistence and world events that may even influence their fears or aspirations through news. Parents can use this time to establish and explain family values and attitudes build upon those as they grow. And two ways approach as parents should also use this opportunity to listen to what children have to say about their understanding of family values. The end result of this, children will learn about compromise and self-sacrifice and more importantly the respect of one’s opinion and practiced consensus problem solving.